In 2002, my partner and I initiated an open relationship. Not because we were bored or unhappy...but merely because we had reached a point of security in our relationship where we were not threatened by the idea of letting each other indulge our curiosity about being with outside partners. I call myself polyamorous, because I fully believe that it's possible to love more than one per at a time. But, sometimes, the sex is all that I want. I do like to spend a little time getting to know my partners first, as this builds trust and a basic level of 'connectedness' (not love, but 'like'). As such, I'm not seeking one night stands (although, realistically, that's all these encounters end up being sometimes). I'm more interested in finding a 'friend with benefits' situation. Sex is always so much better when it's with a partner that I have a mental as well as physical connection with. I am open to meeting up with couples as well - but am totally straight, so the female would be my focus. I have a deep radio-friendly voice, and love discovering good new music. My politics lean left, but my belief system can best be described as 'skepticism'. I like to look at both sides of issues. I am always looking to learn new things, and further my understanding of the world and how it works. I can't host at my place, so it would have to be at yours, a hotel...or at a 'lifestyle' club (if you're open to that). Other stuff I like: - Movies that can show me something interesting and honest about life. Or stuff blowing up. - board games, animated movies, satire, reading those old-timey book things. Stuff I dislike: - bullies - fundamentalist religion - that jerk driving the speed limit in the passing lane - phoniness and pretentiousness - pokes in the eye with a sharp stick

My Ideal Person I'm a straightforward person, and you should be too. I'm looking to meet if you're in the Toronto area (or an hour or so outside of it) and you're just looking for a period of good conversation, followed by some no-strings, self-indulgent pleasure.

I tend to be drawn to women who haven't been getting sex (or enough of it). I make it my mission to provide the pleasure being craved. I have a particular fondness and talent for giving oral, but I also come equipped with a decent sized cock, if that is what you prefer!

Critical thinking, empathy and sarcastic wit are a plus. I don't need a particular body feature or type, but I still need to be feel an attraction to a woman before contemplating a physical relationship, so I'd appreciate it if I could see a picture. Having said that, I find intelligence, kindness, and a sense of humour to be sexy - and I tend to prefer larger women.

What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
Thievery Corporation, Cocteau Twins, Tangerine Dream, Depeche
Mode, Saint Etienne, Magnetic Fields

Tell one of your favorite sexual fantasies. Don't hold back!:
Like every guy, more than one woman at once. If I ever manage
that, perhaps I can move on to a more interesting fantasy.

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Rimming, Light Bondage, Spanking, Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation, Voyeurism, Blindfolds, Massage

Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
I prefer to fantasize about people that I could actually
conceivably meet.

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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