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What I Miss The Most  

sexyldy1000 65F  
10296 posts
3/2/2021 12:42 pm
What I Miss The Most



When asked what I miss the most right now, I don’t hesitate t.o say, more than anything, it’s human touch. I know I am not the 'only' one who is missing it.

The past year has been the first time I have been apart from other people for such a prolonged period of time. Yes, I encounter others when out and about for essential goods and services or walking but that’s not the same.

Previously, whenever I visited my best friends, hugs all around were a common greeting. It’s been almost a year since I have been able t.o do that.

Although it's not a new term “skin hunger” and “touch deprived” is being used to describe the effect lack of human contact many are experiencing.

According t.o experts, humans actually need human touch t.o survive. Think about it, from an early age, we crave physical contact from our parents or caretakers. In fact, physical touch is one of the first ways we learn t.o communicate our needs.

The power of touch is undeniable. Newborns that are given nurturing touch grow faster and have more improved mental and motor skill development. raised with more physical interaction tended t.o be less aggressive and violent. Partners who cuddle have been shown t.o have lower stress levels and blood pressure and improved immune function.

People who experience a lack of touch may start t.o exhibit some symptoms of depression. Feelings of hopelessness, stress, anger and low motivation are all common.

It’s important for people t.o find ways t.o connect to their more sensual side. Here are some suggestions:
>Try giving yourself a massage using your hands, lotions or massage oils.
>Try t.o focus on the sensation of being touched and the use of fabrics or pleasurable objects can heighten this experience.
>Try hugging a comfortable object like a pillow or even a stuffed animal. There’s a reason why often hug their stuffed toys; it feels good!
>Using weighted blankets, wrapping yourself tightly in a blanket or taking a bath can also provide some relief from touch deprivation.

Sometimes, the language of touch can fully express what we feel. I for one, can't wait to be able t.o do that again.




sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/2/2021 1:08 pm

Too often we underestimate the power of touch. Some think it's about being 'touchy-feely'. To be it's the strongest connection I can have with another human.


resant78 43M  
3326 posts
3/2/2021 1:50 pm

I miss connecting with others, it's difficult to have a good conversation with someone over the phone or thru messaging.

In the before times, I would go walking and hiking with different people (friends and family)
We would chat about anything and everything, it would be our time to talk about our lives and how things are going, it's almost like therapy.
I also miss the physical touch of hugging, or something as simple as shaking someone's hand.


benard69 64M/64F  
6298 posts
3/2/2021 1:59 pm

The power of a Long Hug and the transfer of energy from one another is so very important...


Tmptrzz 59F  
107038 posts
3/2/2021 2:00 pm

Some great tips on how to revitalize your sensual side as touching is so important I miss my family and friends and hugs and what not. I hope things get back to normal soon with all these vaccines out, things look more promising. I hope you enjoy your evening..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


peladodel56 65M  
10340 posts
3/2/2021 2:52 pm

Voy a buscar mi peluche y vuelvo...

Hablando en serio, yo soy más del abrazo y del tacto que del beso... me encanta abrazar y que me abracen, sentir el contacto con la piel tibia y suave de una mujer


1Sexygoodguy11 57M
1897 posts
3/2/2021 6:32 pm

Touch is the most thing I miss about being in a relationship. I love to touch and be touched. Cuddles, hugs, holding hands, massage, kisses whatever the way that a person use to make that wonderful contact with me. It is sorely missing out of my life.

Stay Sexy My Friend.


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
3/2/2021 7:08 pm

Hugs are wonderful , and touching is excellent and I seek that warmth, always, in spite of police presence.

Although, in these times, I have to cheat with my daughters ; even though I'm NOT supposed to. I don't give a fuck. We roll from side to side and those hugs are great.

I recall... nervously leaning against her cheek — which was so warm — and closing my eyes, and hoping she wouldn't pull away. I smiled while I inhaled her essence; she'd bewitched me with scent, as the song played... and we weaved and shuffled from side to side. I never wanted that song to end. My closed eyes were hoping.

Have you ever been cheek to cheek... and found heaven?

Yep... Uhm... What was your question?


lonlyforlove2 79M  
32704 posts
3/2/2021 7:35 pm

Touch, you just can't beat it.. hold tight feel the warmth, just cant beat it!!!

Stop by at lonlyforlove2
also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow
Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker"
also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'


Apollo602021 61M  
4461 posts
3/2/2021 8:46 pm

To be aware of another's touch is awesome and indeed, very powerful!

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Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
3/2/2021 10:30 pm

Yeah — I should have been clearer — in case someone was confused; it wasn't my daughter's cheek.

It was HER cheek.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/3/2021 9:20 am

    Quoting resant78:
    I miss connecting with others, it's difficult to have a good conversation with someone over the phone or thru messaging.

    In the before times, I would go walking and hiking with different people (friends and family)
    We would chat about anything and everything, it would be our time to talk about our lives and how things are going, it's almost like therapy.
    I also miss the physical touch of hugging, or something as simple as shaking someone's hand.
Yes, nothing beats in person face-to-face. I switched from a phone call to a Zoom meeting for my weekly ‘check-in’ with my best friend. We are keeping a list of all the things we can do once it’s safe again to do so.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/3/2021 9:21 am

    Quoting benard69:
    The power of a Long Hug and the transfer of energy from one another is so very important...
Absolutely! And there are different types of hugs too 😊. Thanks for stopping by.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/3/2021 9:23 am

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    Some great tips on how to revitalize your sensual side as touching is so important I miss my family and friends and hugs and what not. I hope things get back to normal soon with all these vaccines out, things look more promising. I hope you enjoy your evening..
No doubt there are other things people can try to temporarily replace the loss of touch. Vaccinations will have a positive impact on everyone.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/3/2021 9:26 am

    Quoting peladodel56:
    Voy a buscar mi peluche y vuelvo...

    Hablando en serio, yo soy más del abrazo y del tacto que del beso... me encanta abrazar y que me abracen, sentir el contacto con la piel tibia y suave de una mujer
Hugs and physical contact can evoke many emotions! Nice to see you stopping by again.


boobwhisperer69 59M  
8323 posts
3/3/2021 9:29 am

Great post and I couldn't agree with you more!!!!!! We may never get back to the way things were!!!!!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/3/2021 9:29 am

    Quoting 1Sexygoodguy11:
    Touch is the most thing I miss about being in a relationship. I love to touch and be touched. Cuddles, hugs, holding hands, massage, kisses whatever the way that a person use to make that wonderful contact with me. It is sorely missing out of my life.
I completely understand what you mean 🤔. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your perspective. Here’s 🥂 to hugs for everyone in the not-too-distant future.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/3/2021 9:34 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Hugs are wonderful , and touching is excellent and I seek that warmth, always, in spite of police presence.

    Although, in these times, I have to cheat with my daughters ; even though I'm NOT supposed to. I don't give a fuck. We roll from side to side and those hugs are great.

    I recall... nervously leaning against her cheek — which was so warm — and closing my eyes, and hoping she wouldn't pull away. I smiled while I inhaled her essence; she'd bewitched me with scent, as the song played... and we weaved and shuffled from side to side. I never wanted that song to end. My closed eyes were hoping.

    Have you ever been cheek to cheek... and found heaven?

    Yep... Uhm... What was your question?
Everyone has to do what is best for themselves and their families.
It’s challenging when memories are all some of us have to get us through.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/3/2021 9:36 am

    Quoting lonlyforlove2:
    Touch, you just can't beat it.. hold tight feel the warmth, just cant beat it!!!
Completely agree 😊!!!!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/3/2021 9:37 am

    Quoting Apollo602021:
    To be aware of another's touch is awesome and indeed, very powerful!
Memories help but not forever.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/3/2021 9:38 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Yeah — I should have been clearer — in case someone was confused; it wasn't my daughter's cheek.

    It was HER cheek.
There was no confusion 🤔 for me as to what you meant.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/3/2021 9:41 am

    Quoting boobwhisperer69:
    Great post and I couldn't agree with you more!!!!!! We may never get back to the way things were!!!!!
Let’s hope we can get back to great hugs and all that goes with them in the not-too-distant future! My teddy bear 🧸 is getting worn out!


MrRareity 62M  
4589 posts
3/6/2021 8:27 am

I know I'm a little later here but all I do at work for 8 hrs is use a computer by the time I get home eat I'm in bed at 9pm. Good post. The things you mentioned are ok for replacements but there's nothing more powerful than the human touch. When I went back to work the first time I wanted to shake hands oops. I miss hugs, I miss not being able to shake someones hand. But soon we will once people are vaccinated.

We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/6/2021 10:13 am

    Quoting MrRareity:
    I know I'm a little later here but all I do at work for 8 hrs is use a computer by the time I get home eat I'm in bed at 9pm. Good post. The things you mentioned are ok for replacements but there's nothing more powerful than the human touch. When I went back to work the first time I wanted to shake hands oops. I miss hugs, I miss not being able to shake someones hand. But soon we will once people are vaccinated.
Absolutely agree. There is no substitute for human touch. As I mentioned, I have not touched anyone since COVID began which was March 11. Vaccinations are slow going here so it will be several months till I can get vaccinated which will likely only be the first dose.


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