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Personality and Character  

sexyldy1000 65F  
10298 posts
9/12/2021 5:31 pm
Personality and Character


Personality is how you respond on a typical day.

Character is how you show up on your worst day.

It's easy to demonstrate fairness, integrity and generosity when things are going well.

The real question is whether you stand by those values when the deck is stacked against you.
~Adam Grant


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
9/12/2021 5:35 pm

How do you stick to your values when things seem stacked against you?

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mufdiver69er2 61M  
1951 posts
9/12/2021 6:58 pm

if you are still struggling with feelings from that thing not too long ago..it just means you are still alive and hanging in there !!

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resant78 43M  
3326 posts
9/12/2021 7:03 pm

I feel that my character is being challenged just trying to answer this question.

I know I've gone through rough parts of life (including a divorce) and I think I've handled it all well. I have no enemies and I have helped others when then they needed someone.


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
9/12/2021 7:04 pm

I don't characterize anyone. Judgement is an honour for a higher power.

Then again, I'm an easy target โ€” I believe in three chances.

And as for being fooled? I imagine I'll continue to be tripped up, at least until I figure them out. Because my heart is forgiving, I'll probably be screwed... more than once. It's happened.

It's a chance I'll take and continue to risk.


69ereatwetpussy 59M  
6784 posts
9/12/2021 7:20 pm

all you can do is your best
weather it good enough or not
if people stand back and watch one struggle
do they step in as if you need help or want help
that's when the true you shows with our answer


boobwhisperer69 59M  
8323 posts
9/12/2021 9:18 pm

I'm probably not as good as I think I am! But I do try to be a stand up person!


OttawaMan43sum 51M  
2220 posts
9/13/2021 12:25 am

When I feel the pressure of a situation such as when someone is trying to push my buttons, I think BEFORE I respond. It's the advantage of having a "slow boil" temper.

I know that I have the capability to tear them apart with my words in person, telephone, or in e-mail (without even swearing) so I choose the path of respect instead. That way, I won't regret the interaction. Then, if that person STILL choses to push me, I can either decide to stand up more firmly or walk away with my head held high.


countryqueen1 72F

9/13/2021 2:49 am

I like ti think I show my values at all times and stick to what I believe but if I'm honest, I'd be the first one to back down in an angry mob challenging me. Not that they would change me but they would make me walk away and shut up. Which is pretty pitiful!!


spunkycumfun 61M/67F  
41166 posts
9/13/2021 3:29 am

I try to but it can be difficult sometimes!


Tmptrzz 59F  
107036 posts
9/13/2021 9:50 am

Such a great quote and so very true too, you should always be the best version of yourself that you can be, which covers both character and personality I think.

I hope your Monday is a great start to your week..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


p1947q 75M  
140 posts
9/13/2021 10:48 am

I would like to think that I do stand by my values. However, I believe that character, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder. I am sure there are people who think I am a responsible human being and there are others that donโ€™t. And I am going to be just fine regardless


Kalbi54 67M  
1401 posts
9/13/2021 3:16 pm

"Character is how you show up on your worst day." or when no one is looking


brushwhack 70M

9/13/2021 4:48 pm

Personality is the pose we chose to have before the rest of the world


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
9/13/2021 5:12 pm

    Quoting moha440:
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sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
9/13/2021 5:18 pm

    Quoting mufdiver69er2:
    if you are still struggling with feelings from that thing not too long ago..it just means you are still alive and hanging in there !!
Thank you for your concern. I am "OK", continuing to put one foot in front of the other. Being back at work is a good distraction.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
9/13/2021 5:19 pm

    Quoting resant78:
    I feel that my character is being challenged just trying to answer this question.

    I know I've gone through rough parts of life (including a divorce) and I think I've handled it all well. I have no enemies and I have helped others when then they needed someone.
Sounds like you have handled things successfully. Keep it up!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
9/13/2021 5:22 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    I don't characterize anyone. Judgement is an honour for a higher power.

    Then again, I'm an easy target โ€” I believe in three chances.

    And as for being fooled? I imagine I'll continue to be tripped up, at least until I figure them out. Because my heart is forgiving, I'll probably be screwed... more than once. It's happened.

    It's a chance I'll take and continue to risk.
This post wasn't about judgement. We both agree that the only one who can judge someone is a higher power. "Actions speak louder than words" comes to mind.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
9/13/2021 5:23 pm

    Quoting 69ereatwetpussy:
    all you can do is your best
    weather it good enough or not
    if people stand back and watch one struggle
    do they step in as if you need help or want help
    that's when the true you shows with our answer
Yes, trying to also do your best will stand up to anyone else's scrutiny.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
9/13/2021 5:24 pm

    Quoting boobwhisperer69:
    I'm probably not as good as I think I am! But I do try to be a stand up person!
Often, we are our own worst critics. I am sure you are doing just fine


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
9/13/2021 5:33 pm

    Quoting OttawaMan43sum:
    When I feel the pressure of a situation such as when someone is trying to push my buttons, I think BEFORE I respond. It's the advantage of having a "slow boil" temper.

    I know that I have the capability to tear them apart with my words in person, telephone, or in e-mail (without even swearing) so I choose the path of respect instead. That way, I won't regret the interaction. Then, if that person STILL choses to push me, I can either decide to stand up more firmly or walk away with my head held high.
Being able to pause and think before speaking or responding takes discipline. Many are not that self-aware so kudos for being able to do so. Knowing when to take further steps is also a learned skill.
Thanks for stopping by and commenting Nice to see you are still on here.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
9/13/2021 5:42 pm

    Quoting countryqueen1:
    I like ti think I show my values at all times and stick to what I believe but if I'm honest, I'd be the first one to back down in an angry mob challenging me. Not that they would change me but they would make me walk away and shut up. Which is pretty pitiful!!
Sounds like you are being hard on yourself. I am not good at handling confrontations, especially an 'angry mob'. Walking away can be the {B] best decision.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
9/13/2021 5:43 pm

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    I try to but it can be difficult sometimes!
Yes, it certainly can be!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
9/13/2021 5:46 pm

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    Such a great quote and so very true too, you should always be the best version of yourself that you can be, which covers both character and personality I think.

    I hope your Monday is a great start to your week..
I really liked this quote which is why I chose to share it. There's no doubt that being the best version of ourselves can be challenging. I am glad today is almost over. Tomorrow is another day!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
9/13/2021 5:51 pm

    Quoting p1947q:
    I would like to think that I do stand by my values. However, I believe that character, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder. I am sure there are people who think I am a responsible human being and there are others that donโ€™t. And I am going to be just fine regardless
Reminds me of the expression, "You can't please everyone". I prefer to know that I can look at myself in the mirror and be proud of who I am.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
9/13/2021 5:52 pm

    Quoting Kalbi54:
    "Character is how you show up on your worst day." or when no one is looking
That may be true too


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
9/13/2021 5:53 pm

    Quoting brushwhack:
    Personality is the pose we chose to have before the rest of the world
That is an interesting perspective. Thanks for stopping by and sharing it.


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