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Do Not Blame A Clown For Being One  

sexyldy1000 65F  
10295 posts
3/11/2021 1:48 pm
Do Not Blame A Clown For Being One



Have you ever heard this saying before?

I hadn't but when I saw i.t posted elsewhere today, i.t made m.e stop to reflect where I am and why I am here.

People bickering here about the proper use of blogs. Others complaining about being bombarded with unwelcomed 'dick pics'. Some trying t.o publicly shame those that wouldn't accept No for an answer. Some leave and then are drawn back here like some strange addiction. Others seem t.o thrive on drama.

Personally, I have discovered how much I enjoy the freedom t.o fill my 'space' the way that I am comfortable. I didn’t set out with a goal of achieving a certain number of ‘watchers’ nor do I post expecting a certain amount of comments. However, whenever someone takes time out of their day t.o stop at my space, i.t is appreciated and I acknowledge their presence. If friendships evolve, that is an added bonus.

In the past, I allowed myself t.o get drawn into the 'blog wars' and friendships were lost. The stress and unpleasantness of i.t. all made m.e realize i.t simply wasn't worth the trouble. I continue t.o see what goes on but choose not t.o comment.

So why do I stay on here? Because I can. I don't have t.o explain myself t.o anyone. I am m.e. and I don't try nor pretend t.o be anyone else. You would see the same person if we met. Some day I will leave and i.t will be on my own terms. In the meantime, I will see how things continue to unfold.



sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/11/2021 1:50 pm

Do you think about why you are here and why you stay?


Tmptrzz 59F  
107038 posts
3/11/2021 2:04 pm

What an interesting saying I had never heard this one either until now. And how befitting it is as it totally fits this place too. And what you see here with me is what you get in real life too, so we have something else in common.

Thanks for sharing this one it kind of made me LOL when I first read it..

I hope your enjoying your day..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


redrockrascal 63M  
23580 posts
3/11/2021 2:18 pm

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    Do you think about why you are here and why you stay?
Its simple - I'm here to meet women. I blog because it is somewhat interesting and it is something to do when there aren't any women available nearby.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


GhostofH 63M  
22788 posts
3/11/2021 2:52 pm

I LOVE the posted meme! And I ask myself this very question every single time I log on....


RavenousRaven777 55M
99 posts
3/11/2021 4:38 pm

No, I haven’t noticed that, but that’s because I haven’t spent nearly any time at all on the blogs, and having a lapsed paid membership status, it’s even unworkable to be a part of the community at large in the main body of the site.
However I have noticed , on an affiliated site where I do read the blogs daily, it really boils down to roughly 10 “bloggers” who dominate the blogs and post 90% of the material. So I can imagine it’s probably that way here as well? Guess I’ll have to keep an eye on these blogs and participate a bit, since the main part of the site isn’t any fun anymore now that they’d made it so restrictive and monetized even trying to look at the profiles.


hardguy0051 70M
503 posts
3/11/2021 4:41 pm

A corollary--

When you vote for clowns, don't be surprised when a circus breaks out.


Inthewildx 38M

3/11/2021 5:17 pm

Nice line


flannel_light 59F  
4586 posts
3/11/2021 5:19 pm

I have not heard that until now. This has gotten me to think on a few things.

The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness.


Jules1590 54F  
8151 posts
3/11/2021 5:47 pm

Well done! Keep being YOU!


classicalrebel4 66M  
1755 posts
3/11/2021 6:11 pm

Beam me up Scotty, there's no intelligent life down here.

Please don't let me be misunderstood.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/11/2021 8:10 pm

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    What an interesting saying I had never heard this one either until now. And how befitting it is as it totally fits this place too. And what you see here with me is what you get in real life too, so we have something else in common.

    Thanks for sharing this one it kind of made me LOL when I first read it..

    I hope your enjoying your day..
I am glad it made you smile. Given all the different challenges you have faced, I thought you could see how that expression would apply in a number of scenarios. Keep smiling...it looks good on you!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/11/2021 8:10 pm

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    Its simple - I'm here to meet women. I blog because it is somewhat interesting and it is something to do when there aren't any women available nearby.
Makes a lot of sense


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/11/2021 8:12 pm

    Quoting GhostofH:
    I LOVE the posted meme! And I ask myself this very question every single time I log on....
I had a feeling it would appeal to you . I think many of us share the same sentiment. Thanks for dropping by.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/11/2021 8:16 pm

    Quoting RavenousRaven777:
    No, I haven’t noticed that, but that’s because I haven’t spent nearly any time at all on the blogs, and having a lapsed paid membership status, it’s even unworkable to be a part of the community at large in the main body of the site.
    However I have noticed , on an affiliated site where I do read the blogs daily, it really boils down to roughly 10 “bloggers” who dominate the blogs and post 90% of the material. So I can imagine it’s probably that way here as well? Guess I’ll have to keep an eye on these blogs and participate a bit, since the main part of the site isn’t any fun anymore now that they’d made it so restrictive and monetized even trying to look at the profiles.
It certainly is challenging for non-paying members. However, the blogs are open to all and you will find many bloggers also have private mailboxes. In all, the blogging community on this site is small compared to the overall membership. You have the option to keep checking the main blog page or choose to become a watcher of any that catches your eye. Thanks for dropping by and sharing your perspective.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/11/2021 8:18 pm

    Quoting hardguy0051:
    A corollary--

    When you vote for clowns, don't be surprised when a circus breaks out.
Yep. Clowns are everywhere and looking where they can hang their hats. Thanks for dropping by.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/11/2021 8:18 pm


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/11/2021 8:19 pm

    Quoting flannel_light:
    I have not heard that until now. This has gotten me to think on a few things.
It was new to me also. Made me think about things too.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/11/2021 8:20 pm

Thanks for your support! And I plan on doing exactly what you suggest.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/11/2021 8:27 pm

    Quoting  :

I wasn't denying there are some good people on here. It is important to put this site into perspective and realize it's a microcosm unto itself and the blogging community is only a subset. I always appreciate you stopping by and sharing your perspective.


resant78 43M  
3326 posts
3/11/2021 8:38 pm

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    Do you think about why you are here and why you stay?
My hope is to find women, I'm not sure exactly what I want, but I do want to chat with whoever wants to chat back with me.

I stay because, even with all its faults, this site is entertaining.
And all the blogs and bloggers that I follow.


boobwhisperer69 59M  
8323 posts
3/11/2021 9:32 pm

Just here for the entertainment!!!!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/12/2021 12:09 am

    Quoting classicalrebel4:
    Beam me up Scotty, there's no intelligent life down here.
Really? And you think there is up there? How is that working out?


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/12/2021 12:11 am

    Quoting resant78:
    My hope is to find women, I'm not sure exactly what I want, but I do want to chat with whoever wants to chat back with me.

    I stay because, even with all its faults, this site is entertaining.
    And all the blogs and bloggers that I follow.
Chatting is a good start 😊. Entertainment is measured in different ways and is what keeps many people here.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/12/2021 12:13 am

Hmmm 🤔 seems to be a new theme emerging. How is it working out for you? Is it worth the price of admission?


coolpoolguy3 55M  
3361 posts
3/12/2021 12:26 am

Well said!


jajo696 67F  
4287 posts
3/12/2021 1:58 am

Same as: Not My monkey, Not my Show. In other words...stay outta it . lol

i was raised with the saying: You dont have a nickle in that 25 cents....so leave it alone.

I keep arriving to the circus because there are some good peeps here...interesting perspectives ....sometimes entertaining....my blog writes are cathartic and if i happen to find a partner...its a Bonus.

Just always believed that strong people lift others others up....not smack em down. Also that queens need to dust off each others crowns, not try to tear em off. Hence i am always suspect when i see the converse happening~~


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/12/2021 3:05 am

Thank you. It’s interesting how a phrase can trigger sine soul searching and then the words just flow.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/12/2021 3:25 am

    Quoting jajo696:
    Same as: Not My monkey, Not my Show. In other words...stay outta it . lol

    i was raised with the saying: You dont have a nickle in that 25 cents....so leave it alone.

    I keep arriving to the circus because there are some good peeps here...interesting perspectives ....sometimes entertaining....my blog writes are cathartic and if i happen to find a partner...its a Bonus.

    Just always believed that strong people lift others others up....not smack em down. Also that queens need to dust off each others crowns, not try to tear em off. Hence i am always suspect when i see the converse happening~~
We all have different reasons for being here and for staying. For me, overall, the positive experiences do outweigh the negative ones. I choose to keep those closely guarded. Thank you for stopping by, I always enjoy your insightful perspective.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/12/2021 7:28 am

    Quoting  :

Thank you for making me smile. It's great when someone else 'gets it'. I also appreciated to stopping by and sharing your experiences and perspective.


lickeyzsplit 59M  
1516 posts
3/12/2021 8:29 am

Great saying ! and very appropriate for so many things in our electronic anonymous faceless internet world ! So much shaming and hating by faceless people hiding behind their computer screens , our cancel culture is living proof the more things that are removed by all these offended faceless beings the poorer and weaker we all become . What ever happened to Live and Let Live ?? Love your blog xoxo


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/12/2021 8:53 am

    Quoting lickeyzsplit:
    Great saying ! and very appropriate for so many things in our electronic anonymous faceless internet world ! So much shaming and hating by faceless people hiding behind their computer screens , our cancel culture is living proof the more things that are removed by all these offended faceless beings the poorer and weaker we all become . What ever happened to Live and Let Live ?? Love your blog xoxo
I agree with the points you have raised. Some may take offence at this post. My words were a partial summary of what I have seen and experienced here and elsewhere. Thank you for stopping by and showing your support.


easyrider4008 65M
2563 posts
3/15/2021 3:04 am

I found that an interesting collection, there was an experiment in the UK in the sixties where BST British summer time was retained for 3 years and only changed back again due to the hours of daylight during the winter for Scots farmers, I believe most people favoured keeping summer time for good.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
3/15/2021 3:40 am

    Quoting easyrider4008:
    I found that an interesting collection, there was an experiment in the UK in the sixties where BST British summer time was retained for 3 years and only changed back again due to the hours of daylight during the winter for Scots farmers, I believe most people favoured keeping summer time for good.
I think you meant this comment to be on my post about Daylight Saving Time. There has been discussions off and on here in Canada about doing away with it but I doubt it will happen during my lifetime.


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