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Being Open Minded  

sexyldy1000 65F  
10295 posts
2/11/2021 6:59 am
Being Open Minded









Being open-minded is a phrase often tossed around, especially on a site like this. But what does it really mean? Are you willing to try anything? Are you willing to toss aside all pre-conceived ideas, values, moral beliefs?

To me, being open-minded is the willingness to consider new or differing ideas and opinions. However, It does not oblige me to agree or consent.

sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
2/11/2021 7:18 am

Do you consider yourself open-minded? Have you changed since being on this site?


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
2/11/2021 7:32 am

Wise words... 😊
I'm as open minded as I was when I started here. I still maintain my goals and plans and beliefs but I'll listen to another's POV.


ezwheelz 46M  
198 posts
2/11/2021 7:44 am

Open-minded is an extremely subjective term. Some people like to think they are open to new things and ideas, but most do not like change. People who profess to be very open-minded say no more often than not.

I tend to be the opposite. In the heat of the moment, I have a lot of trouble saying No...


SingleInGR 54M
361 posts
2/11/2021 7:59 am

I agree that open minded means hearing or seeing something that you may not know about, thought about, tried or even seen before and being accepting that it may be for some or yourself BUT it does not as you said imply that I have to see it, do it or really know all there is to know about it.

A closed minded person for the opposite, I think means one whom is set in his or her ways, only thinks one thing and is not open to any other thoughts or version of their way of thinking or comfort zone and will not engage in conversation or deed outside of that.

Though my openness does not mean I will break laws, harm others or do evil deeds, I would say I have been and still am open to most conversations, thoughts and some actions when I think wise, fun or educational.


Justme57754 55M
866 posts
2/11/2021 8:36 am

Open minded is just another term that is thrown around today mostly by people who aren't that way. There are a lot of terms that are thrown around these days that most people don't even know the meaning of but still toss it out there. I personally don't claim to be open minded but instead claim to be after the truth. I'll research a variety of sources on different subjects to figure out the truth. Basically everything is like an equation that contains many variable but also has certain constants. You take away the many variables you will end up with the constants and therein lies the truth.

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Apollo602021 61M  
4461 posts
2/11/2021 8:47 am

Indeed these are wise words!

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1niceguy4u2008 61M
39 posts
2/11/2021 10:33 am

I have definitely become more open minded as I get older. Been to oasisaqualounge and done things I never thought I would do. Looking forward to more.


positively4you 72F  
4605 posts
2/11/2021 10:40 am

I am not open minded. I am of my own mind. If I don’t like it or agree with it or condone it, I am of my own mind to not engage or agree. Not someone’s take on it. I see the term open minded used a lot in the sex scenario. As if you wont do certain things you are closed or frigid or not exciting.
I guess I am not a fan of the term.


p1947q 75M  
140 posts
2/11/2021 1:09 pm

I love these thought provoking blogs. I’d like to say that I am open-minded but in reality I am not sure that I am. I am extremely intolerant (closed-minded) of those who would deny any one the right to live the life they choose for themselves. But I cherish the opportunities I have had in my life to live and work and travel throughout a large part of North America – the places I have seen that I did not know existed; the people I have met along the way; the lessons I have learned – both personally and professionaly. To borrow a few words from Jimmy Buffett – "Some of it's magic, And some of it's tragic, But I had a good life all the way", and I believe that is because I embraced the opportunities that presented with an open mind and open arms.


DiscreetQuirky 53M
281 posts
2/11/2021 2:07 pm

To me being open-minded is to not assume that something you haven't seen or tried is crap. To give somebody else's "weird" way of being or doing things a chance. It's not a bad thing to overcome familiarity bias.
I'd modify the one saying above to "open your mind before you open your mouth to criticize."


TicklePlease 54F  
13851 posts
2/11/2021 2:18 pm

Some folks are so open minded that I think their brain fell out!


Tmptrzz 59F  
107038 posts
2/11/2021 4:23 pm

You described being open minded perfectly I couldn't agree more , and those were some great memes as well about being open minded..I hope you enjoy your evening..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


MrRareity 62M  
4589 posts
2/11/2021 6:44 pm

I like the way positively4you said it that she is "I am of my own mind". I do consider myself open minded. However, I disagree with the second quote and that's where I like what positively4you said if she doesn't like or agree with something. Just because I dislike something doesn't mean that I'm not open minded. We might have different opinions on something but that doesn't make you or me close minded.

We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
2/12/2021 9:17 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Wise words... 😊
    I'm as open minded as I was when I started here. I still maintain my goals and plans and beliefs but I'll listen to another's POV.
The key is finding the right balance that works best and sounds like you have. Keep safe and keep warm!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
2/12/2021 9:18 am

    Quoting ezwheelz:
    Open-minded is an extremely subjective term. Some people like to think they are open to new things and ideas, but most do not like change. People who profess to be very open-minded say no more often than not.

    I tend to be the opposite. In the heat of the moment, I have a lot of trouble saying No...
I agree that being open-minded is subjective. It's why when someone asks me the question, I ask them to define what it means to them. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your perspective.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
2/12/2021 9:22 am

    Quoting SingleInGR:
    I agree that open minded means hearing or seeing something that you may not know about, thought about, tried or even seen before and being accepting that it may be for some or yourself BUT it does not as you said imply that I have to see it, do it or really know all there is to know about it.

    A closed minded person for the opposite, I think means one whom is set in his or her ways, only thinks one thing and is not open to any other thoughts or version of their way of thinking or comfort zone and will not engage in conversation or deed outside of that.

    Though my openness does not mean I will break laws, harm others or do evil deeds, I would say I have been and still am open to most conversations, thoughts and some actions when I think wise, fun or educational.
I was not implying that agreement is required. However, listening and making the choice that aligns with one's own morals and values is. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your definition and how you align your actions and thoughts,


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
2/12/2021 9:24 am

    Quoting Justme57754:
    Open minded is just another term that is thrown around today mostly by people who aren't that way. There are a lot of terms that are thrown around these days that most people don't even know the meaning of but still toss it out there. I personally don't claim to be open minded but instead claim to be after the truth. I'll research a variety of sources on different subjects to figure out the truth. Basically everything is like an equation that contains many variable but also has certain constants. You take away the many variables you will end up with the constants and therein lies the truth.
Thank you for stopping by and sharing your perspective. Seeking the truth should not steer you wrong.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
2/12/2021 9:25 am

It seems to have opened an interesting discussion which is always a bonus!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
2/12/2021 9:27 am

    Quoting  :

Yes or agree to whatever their perspective is. Some think being open-minded only happens when you agree to anything and everything!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
2/12/2021 9:28 am

    Quoting 1niceguy4u2008:
    I have definitely become more open minded as I get older. Been to oasisaqualounge and done things I never thought I would do. Looking forward to more.
Experience and maturity can temper our perspective and willingness to try new and different things. Thanks for stopping by.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
2/12/2021 9:32 am

    Quoting positively4you:
    I am not open minded. I am of my own mind. If I don’t like it or agree with it or condone it, I am of my own mind to not engage or agree. Not someone’s take on it. I see the term open minded used a lot in the sex scenario. As if you wont do certain things you are closed or frigid or not exciting.
    I guess I am not a fan of the term.
I understand your perspective. That's why when someone asks me if I am open-minded, I ask them to define what it means to them and I can respond accordingly. Of course, there are things that are on my 'never' list and why I don't feel obliged to agree or consent.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
2/12/2021 9:35 am

    Quoting p1947q:
    I love these thought provoking blogs. I’d like to say that I am open-minded but in reality I am not sure that I am. I am extremely intolerant (closed-minded) of those who would deny any one the right to live the life they choose for themselves. But I cherish the opportunities I have had in my life to live and work and travel throughout a large part of North America – the places I have seen that I did not know existed; the people I have met along the way; the lessons I have learned – both personally and professionaly. To borrow a few words from Jimmy Buffett – "Some of it's magic, And some of it's tragic, But I had a good life all the way", and I believe that is because I embraced the opportunities that presented with an open mind and open arms.
I welcome discussions offering differing opinions that occur from something I post and anticipated this one would. I always enjoy it when you drop by and offer your perspective. Keep well and keep safe!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
2/12/2021 9:37 am

    Quoting DiscreetQuirky:
    To me being open-minded is to not assume that something you haven't seen or tried is crap. To give somebody else's "weird" way of being or doing things a chance. It's not a bad thing to overcome familiarity bias.
    I'd modify the one saying above to "open your mind before you open your mouth to criticize."
Thanks for stopping by and providing your perspective. I like your suggestion on changes to the meme you noted.


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
2/12/2021 9:38 am

    Quoting TicklePlease:
    Some folks are so open minded that I think their brain fell out!
Isn't that the truth!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
2/12/2021 9:40 am

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    You described being open minded perfectly I couldn't agree more , and those were some great memes as well about being open minded..I hope you enjoy your evening..
You know I like to post interesting and thought-provoking topics. I don't expect everyone to agree and welcome conversation and dialogue. Hope you have a great weekend!


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
2/12/2021 9:42 am

    Quoting MrRareity:
    I like the way positively4you said it that she is "I am of my own mind". I do consider myself open minded. However, I disagree with the second quote and that's where I like what positively4you said if she doesn't like or agree with something. Just because I dislike something doesn't mean that I'm not open minded. We might have different opinions on something but that doesn't make you or me close minded.
Yes, I agree. Everyone should stand up for what they believe in and not be coerced to change their mind because of negativity or pressure from others. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your take on things.


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