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My distilled reasons for sex  

redmustang91 61M  
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8/6/2008 5:17 am

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My distilled reasons for sex


The 237 reasons given to have sex seemed to have many repetitions and variations on the same idea. So I have distilled them down to 50 reasons, including a few new ones I added based on my experience and observations:

50 distilled Reasons to have sex:

Hospitality: Eskimos lend a wife to a traveler;

To gossip about: To have something to tell or write about;

Curiosity: curious about new lover, new position, what feels like, new gender, non-intercourse (anal, oral), multiple partners, bigger dick.

Health: relieve tension, headache, cramps, “blue balls”, burn calories, exercise, improve prostate, help fall asleep, stay warm

Self emotional state: feel powerful, want attention, act out fantasy, feel older, feel younger, feel better about self, enjoy life, get over an ex lover, to lose inhibitions, end virgin status;

Revenge: to get back at cheating mate, hurt an enemy, give someone a STD, make someone else jealous;

Work: to get sex off brain, so can work more;

Coercion: fear physical injury unless comply, pressured, verbally harassed, felt too guilty to deny other’s request;

Impaired condition: unable to control self because drunk/drugged;

Sex addict: compelled to have sex for psych reasons;

Love: to express love and affection to partner, become one with partner, feel intimacy, share the pleasure;

Avoid other tasks: to avoid chores, change topic of conversation, stop nagging;

Break relationship: end your own or break up another’s;

Alter status: end virgin status, rebel against parents/teachers, closure on relationship, lower your AgoraCosmopolitan Dating purity score;

Habit: expected to have sex with partner, so just do it;

Power: to dominate another, possess them, a conquest, submission or feel dominated;

Spiritual: to feel God, one with the universe, spiritual act, Tantric sex practices;

Obligated: feel duty to do it, married;

Punished: feel desire to be degraded and humiliated, or degrade other;

Pleasure: for fun, experiment with new positions or partners, for excitement or adventure;

Communicate: to say “sorry”, “thank you”, return a favor;

Celebration: for anniversary, birthday, for holiday, for big win;

Partner stealing: to trap someone, or steal another’s partner;

Sex identity validation: to reaffirm or test sexual orientation;

Reciprocate: to pay back for a fancy dinner, jewelry, gifts, money, to reward him for making me laugh;

Aroused: Aroused by partner’s looks, personality, good kisser, dancer, intelligence, humor, caresses

Challenge: A bet, competition among friends, dared, “out of league” success;

Mercy fuck: to lift their spirits, not want to disappoint them, help them forget problems ( “broken man” ) , feel sorry for problems;

Reproduction: want , ovulating, genetic imperative;

Royalty: need male heir to pass on royal line, leave ancestral house or business to an heir;

Partner pacify: keep partner happy, make partner spend time with you, partner insist;

Social status: fit in with friends, to brag, initiation rite, hurt rep if said no, be popular, sex with a celebrity, notch in your belt;

money: for money, job or promotion, casting couch, return a favor or be owed a favor;

Married: obligation, duty;

Bored: filling time, thing to do, just happened;

Reaffirm life: after funeral or 9/11 trauma to feel alive;

Going to war: to feel alive, leave offspring, not die a virgin;

To affect partner: To make partner desire you, make partner envious, make partner feel good, relaxed, or sexy;

Make-up sex: to reaffirm bond after fight or end an argument;

Artistic inspiration: Sought experience for writing, painting;

Retain potency: use it or lose it;

To improve skills: Practice with more experienced partner to learn new skills;

Acting: in porn, movies or theater;

Lost control: intended to just kiss and got carried away, raging hormones, or felt too “horny” to stop;

To Swing: To please partner by swinging, or to enjoy an alternative lifestyle.

To allow partner to be a voyeur: to let partner see you have sex with someone else for partner’s gratification.

Leader ordered: In a cult and the leader ordered the sex;

Testing powers: To see how many orgasms each person could have in a set time period;

Nostalgia: to recapture youthful feeling;

To be able to harm someone: have sex so you can ruin partner's reputation or injure your own, or transmit an STD;

Daily sex: Minister suggested to improve relationship.

HaloMisplaced 54F
794 posts
8/15/2008 5:48 pm

I started mentally checking of any that I had done, then lost count! lol

Great list!


redmustang91 61M  
9695 posts
8/18/2008 8:23 am

I have not gone off to war, been royal, used sex to harm someone, had sex to gossip about, have not been in a cult so no leader ordered my sex life, not been paid for sex, not been an actor in a porn film, not been an eskimo, not had sex in a swinging situation, not had sex for a bet, not been coerced into sex, not had sex with a celebrity to brag about it, and not had sex to prove I was heterosexual. I have had sex for many other reasons....


redmustang91 61M  
9695 posts
8/18/2008 8:25 am

the best reason for sex is because you and your partner enjoy sharing pleasure and love each other....


gardengoddess 58F  
389 posts
1/12/2010 1:27 pm

Remustang91...I really like the way you think! Isn't it really the only reason two people should have sex? Answer...Hell yes!


redmustang91 61M  
9695 posts
1/13/2010 11:16 am

Liking someone is a good start, but you also need to have hot chemistry together to really enjoy the sex...


rm_always_lily 68F
1012 posts
3/7/2011 4:48 am

People need reasons to have sex?


redmustang91 61M  
9695 posts
3/7/2011 10:08 am

According to Billy Crystal, men just need a room, but women need a reason. I have given the females at least fifty of them, so lets get the party started...


redmustang91 61M  
9695 posts
3/9/2012 4:52 am

Of course men don't always need a room, if you are willing to risk a few mosquito bites...


redmustang91 61M  
9695 posts
6/23/2019 12:42 pm

Sex is the answer, I just keep forgetting the question.


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