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Snugglebear100 44M
2 posts
1/20/2020 7:37 am
What's in a friend?


I think that I must be doing something wrong... Or, perhaps, I am just too discerning with my requests.

So I've been a member on AgoraCosmopolitan Dating for a little over a month at this . Still trying to figure things out, but I've been reaching out to other members that seem like they would have similar interests. I send friend requests, but it seems like so very few ever accept or respond back. I certainly get that not every request is going to be met with approval, but it seems to be a very low return .

Then again, I see so many accounts with hundreds of friends, which makes me wonder if the idea is just to bombard the website with friend requests. Do most guys just send requests to every account that boasts a pair of tits? Suppose that would increase the odds of gaining friends, but can I say that they are friends if there's no common ground or interest?

Meh, doesn't really matter at the end of the day. Just bored so I'm rambling a bit. Probably should spend some time with friends... Ah, crud.

BiggLala 49F  
29415 posts
1/20/2020 10:06 am

"I send friend requests...but it seems to be a very low return ."
-How much interaction have you had with the person when you send friend requests?

Do most guys just send requests to every account that boasts a pair of tits?
-Uhhh...yeah...a lot do. In reference to my question above, IF you are one of 'those guys' who send random requests to women with whom you have not interacted, you're going to continue to be frustrated. As you have experienced, you'll either receive no response...OR...the person will accept your request and you'll fall by the wayside in their overly populated "friends" list.

Yes, *some* people are here (or on any online forum) just to collect "friends". However, to your point, "...can I say that they are friends if there's no common ground or interest," you can only determine common ground or interest through actual conversation. Sooo...stop sending random requests to people you've not interacted with...IF you do that. TALK to the person first. Everyone isn't going to want to talk to everyone else, as I'm sure there's some people you don't want to talk to. Therefore, don't take it personally if they don't talk to you, just move on and continue your search.

Good luck!

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Snugglebear100 replies on 1/20/2020 4:37 pm:
Much obliged, Lala! Good words of wisdom in your responses. Yes, most of my requests were sent after having some conversations with others, but I might still have been a bit premature in my expectations.

That being said, I'm not taking the lack in responses all that personally or seriously. I am sincerely appreciative of you taking the time to respond with some insights, though. Best wishes!

CaseyCat 55F  
14 posts
1/20/2020 10:24 am

This isn't face book. Just sayin


Snugglebear100 replies on 1/20/2020 4:32 pm:
True that, CaseyCat!

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