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Is it a kink?  

PaddleMan71 49M
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10/19/2020 3:55 am
Is it a kink?


I was thinking on the typical male complaint that once he marries someone the woman become's disinterested in sex. I have always held the belief that everyone has a kink and the deviding line is some just won't admit to having a kink or fantasy. One of the most irritating answers to a question I get is that they don't have a fantasy.
My first reaction is how can you not have a fantsy but last night I wondered if they just don't know it's a fantasy or kink that they have. Do you have a fantasy actually isn't an easy question to answer.
Two of the more basic traits of a good Dominant is confidence and self control. My thought process is maybe they are taking a submissive role and don't realize it. Maybe their kink is abstinence when they are around a confident and controlled man letting the pressure build to a point where neither party can hold back their desires. Maybe women have an ability to edge on a mental level and as long as you keep your control as the man of the relationship and show self control she will eventualy show her hand.
Maybe self control is the most erotic trait those so called non sexual women subconsciously need to become aroused.

Always go with your heart. PaddleMan71's muse group is the link to my erotica fan group.


BiggLala 48F  
29059 posts
10/19/2020 7:51 am

Or...maybe...they really don't have a [sexual] fantasy or a kink (those are two different things btw ). Not everyone has to have a fantasy or a kink. Or maybe they think of one later (I didn't have a sexual fantasy until my mid to late thirties).

Why spend energy on on it? Not a big deal as long as the people involved consent and enjoy. Just my opinion since you posted this.

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