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Asexual Wife, part 1  

WilmingtonFun137 42M
80 posts
3/23/2021 10:35 am
Asexual Wife, part 1


This year will mark the Ten year anniversary of my wife and I being married. She is totally amazing. She's smart and silly and creative. A thoughtful friend and confidant. We cuddle and laugh and walk the beach together. Absolutely beautiful and a little punk with some truly lovely curves. Everything I ever wanted in a wife and partner, except...

She's asexual.

Took us more than a few years to understand that that is what was going on. She grew up highly conservative and just never knew. Noticed there was an issue pretty early in our marriage. Especially as I have such a high libido. She, not so much.

She isn't interested in making out or sex of any sort, with anyone. Finds it disgusting and messy and way too time consuming. LOL.

Why have sex, when the floor needs sweeping and there are books to read? Why would you want to put your tongue in my mouth? etc.

To me, it's more than a little strange. Sexuality and desire is so ingrained in me. But while she honestly has no true understanding about such things, she does recognize that I have such<b> desires. </font></b>She either does what she can to fulfil them, and often encourages me to find another to fulfil them with.

She is awesome, but nobody is perfect.

You see light dappling on the water and forget the deep, cold dark beneath.


WilmingtonFun137 42M
285 posts
3/23/2021 10:35 am

I'm really looking forward to what the next ten years are gonna bring.

You see light dappling on the water and forget the deep, cold dark beneath.


1seeking1 58F
3767 posts
3/23/2021 11:31 am

Glad you can make it work, I left my asexual husband, years with our 2 daughters. At age 34 with younger lover learned what truly good sex is. Unfortunately I had 2 move for work. Then another asexual man, and we talked about things, he said he would be delighted to keep me happy. Sadly being asexual, seems can not be changed, we are great friends. I will never be committed to a man that does not meet my drive, way to frustrating for me. Cheating would never be an option for me, too messy and complicated.


WilmingtonFun137 replies on 3/24/2021 5:43 am:
Yeah, cheating was never gonna happen. I can't even imagine hurting someone I love like that.

But it definitely is complicated and at times more than a bit difficult. But we eventually figured it all out.

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