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Why is this so hard ??
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Why is this so hard ?? Being divorced three years now. It’s not getting any easier. Had a dinner the other night and was able to get some honest answers from a gentleman. When us gals say we don’t want a hookup but let’s met see if we click and go from there. You guys mostly agree then the challenge begins. So question here is. Is this true?? How fast can I bed her?? I can change her mind once she see how great I am. Hell I bought her dinner. If she didn’t want it she wouldn’t have those kind of pictures on her profile Looking for to your thoughts on this. Both guys and gals what’s you feelings on this subject and what internal rules do you go by. R U Him |
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I've always enjoyed the air-headed-ness of "How fast can I bed her??" It's always followed by of "How fast can I dump her and go home??" And trust me, as we mature, that assumption gets even dumber while the scent of immaturity protrudes through her pores like sweat. At any age, some women seem to forget they're auditioning too. And those that carry these stereotypical bagages never know when that really great guy, the one that shouldn't have gotten away - ran away. They never get out of the gate because that guy you're all looking for, sees right through the insecurities and simply doesn't have time for the drama - certain not at out age. 
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I've always enjoyed the air-headed-ness of "How fast can I bed her??" It's always followed by of "How fast can I dump her and go home??" And trust me, as we mature, that assumption gets even dumber while the scent of immaturity protrudes through her pores like sweat. At any age, some women seem to forget they're auditioning too. And those that carry these stereotypical bagages never know when that really great guy, the one that shouldn't have gotten away - ran away. They never get out of the gate because that guy you're all looking for, sees right through the insecurities and simply doesn't have time for the drama - certain not at out age.
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12/28/2019 1:50 am |
you might get true and honest answers from some guys on here but the majority will tell you what they think you want to hear ..Its sad that the honest guys are so few and far between ..Every one on here is out to get something from someone and if you read profiles they sometimes contradict themselves and let slip what they are truly seeking..I met a guy outside of here that really got it going on..he has it all ..good luck wish you all the best in your search
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and Ruhim, for me if's a first meet I'm not looking to get her into bed that night. We agreed on dinner, a movie , a drink or whatever- then that's all I'd expect. And if I was interested in taking things further I'd be acting like it, not a one shot loser.
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12/28/2019 2:51 am |
Men r lucky, they have enough blood to operate their brain and their penis, but not at the same time.....
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I've always enjoyed the air-headed-ness of "How fast can I bed her??" It's always followed by of "How fast can I dump her and go home??" And trust me, as we mature, that assumption gets even dumber while the scent of immaturity protrudes through her pores like sweat. At any age, some women seem to forget they're auditioning too. And those that carry these stereotypical bagages never know when that really great guy, the one that shouldn't have gotten away - ran away. They never get out of the gate because that guy you're all looking for, sees right through the insecurities and simply doesn't have time for the drama - certain not at out age.
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It's a SEX site. I'm always confused when people expected more from a site where the majority of the people, just want to have sex. Now if anything else becomes of your meeting on this site, then consider yourself lucky. There are plenty of sites for people who want to date, wine and dine, get to know one another. This isn't it people, come on! You knew what you were getting into when you saw your first naked body part, but you thought YOU could change the rules. Have some non-committal adult fun, or committal fun, but don't take yourself so serious Life is to short. Have a GREAT New Year.
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12/28/2019 3:15 am |
 honest answers? or answers you excepted.i always wondered why people would join a hookup site for dinner? now i am not saying that a man is entitled to get laid on every meet... but seriously is it not like going to a shoe store for a dress? true not every meet in a hookup site leads to a bed... it is also true that we only take seven seconds to form an opinion. so if you don't get the spark, why stay for dinner? "And if I was interested in taking things further I'd be acting like it, not a one shot loser." i do like this line,but am wondering if you ain't here to score,then why did you sign up for the game? yes i do agree that no women is obligated to have sex with ANYONE she is not comfortable with yes i agree that a woman that has agreed to a hookup has the right to backout when meeting the person my question would be why join a hookup site... why except a date on a hookup site... why meet someone from a hookup site with NO intent to hookup there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity
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12/28/2019 3:24 am |
Some harsh replies to this question
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i ve said this before most men just want another notch on bed post ,eventho they were told   they just think with their smaller head
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Usually when I meet someone for the first time, we have talked at length and established expectations from the get-go. Many times if we discover the chemistry is there we head out and get more "intimately" acquainted, as we both have needs and our primary reason for being here is to find someone to fulfill them. Other times it doesn't work out that way, of course, but the times I meet someone that is relaxed and feels sex is natural (like I do) it is refreshing.
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You are spot-on! The good thing about this site is you can be upfront about the need for sex, while the other sites you alluded to you really can't. Because of how I am wired, I just can't to the one-and-done thing, thus I lean in the relationship direction, as to me the sex gets better when you learn more about and yearn for someone. Thanks for pointing out that there is a place for all here.
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12/28/2019 6:03 am |
Yep this wouldn't be the place to find ever lasting love...It can happen but face it...Folks are looking for sex...
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It all depends on the guy you’re attracting. Some guys DO think like that. But it’s up to you to find ones that don’t. I’ve never fucked someone on the first date because I didn’t think that happens in real life. And my intentions come out in the end. But the thing is do you stick around long enough to find out.. ~Linc was here.~
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Yes. This is a sex site. If you are looking for a date site there are plenty of others. This is what frustrates us men on her... this isn’t a date to marry kind of site. It explicitly says what it is. How could you not get that. Go to a date site. You probably not find what you’re looking for there either...
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12/28/2019 7:13 am |
hi what is wrong with just taking a nice lady out for a dinner and enjoy each other company never have tried to bed a women if I had dinner with her and I would pay the bill nice to talk and have a nice conversation and get to now each other that is what I would do
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I just KNEW you would jump all over this one  They are still not getting it are they 
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Yes. This is a sex site. If you are looking for a date site there are plenty of others. This is what frustrates us men on her... this isn’t a date to marry kind of site. It explicitly says what it is. How could you not get that. Go to a date site. You probably not find what you’re looking for there either...  On here they are looking to get laid,, on there they are looking for a relationship/the one. It's all bullshit, you pays your money you takes your chance,
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I wasn’t trying to start a debate or have very harsh comments thrown at me which I can take. Just wanted to know if this was a thing. ThAnjs did all your well constructed comments R U Him
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Hard time tying this morning. Again thank you for your hard thought out comments. One comment that had my laughing was that their other sites for dating yes and because it’s assumed that is where it’s going without talking about it. I’ve been assaulted over it for not putting out. Here at least it’s brought up. I have just noticed, from experience, that if you agree to met to see if you click then that’s it. When you try to jump on top of her the minute you say hi. That’s not cool. And most guys are in the other sites 3 to 4 at a time. Why who knows or they aren’t getting any R U Him
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hi what is wrong with just taking a nice lady out for a dinner and enjoy each other company never have tried to bed a women if I had dinner with her and I would pay the bill nice to talk and have a nice conversation and get to now each other that is what I would do and part of the reason why i personally don't like someone being 'willing' to drive a distance. yes, the guy makes the 'offer', but i don't have to accept. and it's all for the same reason. why have someone drive a good ways or more to see your face, chat, shake hands, g'bye? i don't need or want someone trying to make me feel bad that all they got is some dap or a handshake? when anyone is geographically closer, i feel like there is less potential for things to go sideways and easier for either party to excuse themselves without feeling like tremendous time or money was wasted. or having to take a long  home.
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The one who can understand the written word, have a realistic grasp of the given thought and direct comments in the right direction. Most people read into something some preconceived thoughts and get off track in a hurry. To all have a good one Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
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I go in with no expectations what so ever. things click, we go from there then. Otherwise, it's a date !!
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Assumptions and presumptions are a deep seeded paranoia that comes from people who can't or won't show who they are and that keeps people at home. Sex gets everyone's attention.That's why they're here huddled around a internet device watching what others are saying and uploading.Some are only after envy. Some to create jealousy from an ex partner.Most just get a cheap thrill from hiding from some societal taboo while they post unconfirmed headless body parts. There's no doubt that women don't want to hear what men are thinking .They'd rather hear what they're thinking ,only in a deeper voice.There's really no better saying to define this site and what it accomplishes and that's "No reply is a reply. I don't really think it's sex and it's procurement that we all have in common here but rather how much fun we have at being good at dodging lead! Using more than all the road!
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Just as i have always said...its a Mars/Venus thing.....and they will never get it ( sigh ). Ruh....there are all kindsa everything here...just move on to the next till you find someone who kinda sorta maybe .....gets it....and is worthy of your time. ~~
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