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Blogs > secret_lade > Ramblings of the depraved.....

Pardon my bloody stumps.....  

secret_lade 49F
14311 posts
3/24/2021 3:55 am
Pardon my bloody stumps.....

I've been doing a lot of anxiety filled small talk lately and....

Yah, I'm not good at it.

It seems I've picked up a new tick for an anxiety outlet. Picking at my fingernails and cuticles. I didn't even notice it until yesterday when I was talking to Deputy Don and the new guy who will soon be his replacement.

So much newness at work now...

I was idly discussing where he was coming from and what his background was when I felt a pain in my right index finger. Glancing down, I saw a small drop of<b> blood </font></b>forming in the corner of my cuticle where I'd apparently been picking at it with my thumb.

"Ouch! What did you do?"

"Um, I'm not sure. I think I was just absently picking at it."

That's when I noticed... ALL of my fingers looked like they had fallen victim at some point or another. Each finger had a tiny little sore spot where I'd absently rubbed the cuticle and picked at it until it eventually became an issue.

Classy!

Thankfully we're living in a world where just the thought of shaking someone's hand sends shivers down your spine now!

People would be recoiling in disgust when I tossed out my leper paw to shake!

"You need to stop doing that."

No shit Sherlock....

"Easier said than done."

I need to start working with my office door closed before I find myself left with nothing but bone tips.

Happy Wednesday!

secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
3/26/2021 2:33 am

 I catch myself doing it when I'm stuck making uncomfortable small talk. I have 6 new coworkers right now and they all are trying to find their niche and get acquainted with work friends. I'm just not good at small talk. Give me a topic where I can share my ideas, thoughts, and feelings and I'm good. Ask me about what I do for fun in the Gaylord area.... ugh!!


flannel_light 61F
4586 posts
3/25/2021 7:32 pm

 I do that when I get nervous.
The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
3/25/2021 3:56 am
    Quoting Ultraviolet_Sol:
    Recoiling in disgust when I tossed out my leper paw to shake!

    That is a hilarious and interesting turn of phrase.

    You have a gift for things like that.

    Regarding the underlying condition. Maybe an opportunity to exercise your inner Zen Buddha? I know. Easier said than done.

    Best wishes.
Hmmmm... I think my inner me is just a more sarcastic, hostile version of the outer me.


Ultraviolet_Sol 43M
622 posts
3/24/2021 11:11 pm

 Recoiling in disgust when I tossed out my leper paw to shake!

That is a hilarious and interesting turn of phrase.

You have a gift for things like that.

Regarding the underlying condition. Maybe an opportunity to exercise your inner Zen Buddha? I know. Easier said than done.

Best wishes.
*. *. *


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
3/24/2021 3:22 pm
    Quoting superbjversion2:
    Those nervous habits are the toughest to break. I usually have a cuticle (or two) that looks like it fell in a meat grinder so I sympathize completely.
They are hard to break, aren't they! It was easier for me to give up drinking pop.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
3/24/2021 3:20 pm
    Quoting citizen4722:
    Is that where the term; "working your fingers down to the bone" comes from
Why yes, yes it is! LOL


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
3/24/2021 3:20 pm
    Quoting lindoboy100:
    I used to bite my nails until they bled, but haven't done that for years. I also once grew a beard but ended up plucking holes in it!

    I think I just fidget all round these days rather than focus on any one thing, which is of course very irritating for anyone sitting next to me!

    Wear gloves?
Your poor nails. I did the hair twirling thing for a long time, I don't know how I managed to break that habit. I used to click my ink pen in and out all the time... That was annoying to everyone. When I'm falling asleep I shake my foot back and forth...

Good lord, no wonder I'm still single.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
3/24/2021 3:15 pm
    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Could be worse but your mask prevents you from picking THAT part of your body. ❗❗😎
Oh my! Just thought of this... The whole mask thing must be killing the nail biters!!! That's one habit I'm glad I never picked up.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
3/24/2021 3:14 pm
    Quoting MrWrong4RghtNow:
    Happy Stum.. uh Hump Day! Yeah, those lil nervous tics can be something. I noticed before the pandemic my thing was somehow plucking my eyebrows in my sleep. Neat huh? Lol. Luckily I stopped by tucking my hands under myself or my pillow when I went to sleep. Maybe you could try finding something to keep my hands busy with like a rubber band or paper clip. Just a suggestion.
Yikes! Did you have eyebrows left? I do have to find something different to do with my hands.... I was really making an effort to not pick at the cuticles today. I did it way more than I realized.


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
3/24/2021 3:05 pm
    Quoting  :
I actually picked up a cuticle salve today. It's already working wonders, much improved in appearance.


MrWrong4RghtNow 57M
2439 posts
3/24/2021 7:41 am

 Happy Stum.. uh Hump Day! Yeah, those lil nervous tics can be something. I noticed before the pandemic my thing was somehow plucking my eyebrows in my sleep. Neat huh? Lol. Luckily I stopped by tucking my hands under myself or my pillow when I went to sleep. Maybe you could try finding something to keep my hands busy with like a rubber band or paper clip. Just a suggestion.
My name is MrWrong and I approved this comment


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
3/24/2021 7:25 am

 Could be worse but your mask prevents you from picking THAT part of your body. ❗❗😎


lindoboy100 61M
23969 posts
3/24/2021 7:04 am

 I used to bite my nails until they bled, but haven't done that for years. I also once grew a beard but ended up plucking holes in it!

I think I just fidget all round these days rather than focus on any one thing, which is of course very irritating for anyone sitting next to me!

Wear gloves?


citizen4722 66M  
74582 posts
3/24/2021 6:26 am

 Is that where the term; "working your fingers down to the bone" comes from


superbjversion2 68F  
24388 posts
3/24/2021 6:20 am

 Those nervous habits are the toughest to break. I usually have a cuticle (or two) that looks like it fell in a meat grinder so I sympathize completely.
Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!


secret_lade 49F
9227 posts
3/24/2021 3:55 am

 've been doing a lot of anxiety filled small talk lately and....

Yah, I'm not good at it.

It seems I've picked up a new tick for an anxiety outlet. Picking at my fingernails and cuticles. I didn't even notice it until yesterday when I was talking to Deputy Don and the new guy who will soon be his replacement.

So much newness at work now...

I was idly discussing where he was coming from and what his background was when I felt a pain in my right index finger. Glancing down, I saw a small drop of blood forming in the corner of my cuticle where I'd apparently been picking at it with my thumb.

"Ouch! What did you do?"

"Um, I'm not sure. I think I was just absently picking at it."

That's when I noticed... ALL of my fingers looked like they had fallen victim at some point or another. Each finger had a tiny little sore spot where I'd absently rubbed the cuticle and picked at it until it eventually became an issue.

Classy!

Thankfully we're living in a world where just the thought of shaking someone's hand sends shivers down your spine now!

People would be recoiling in disgust when I tossed out my leper paw to shake!

"You need to stop doing that."

No shit Sherlock....

"Easier said than done."

I need to start working with my office door closed before I find myself left with nothing but bone tips.

Happy Wednesday!


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