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Ok, now I'm insulted.  

racyredlace 53F
503 posts
11/30/2019 6:40 pm
Ok, now I'm insulted.

Earlier this evening I was chatting with a friend who shared with me that a woman said she saw his "list of conquests" and doesn't want to be added "to the list."

Just whoa up right there lady. "Conquest"? Seriously? Every woman who has sex with a man is his conquest? Bull-fuckin-shit.

Maybe she was just playing hard to get. Maybe she's jealous. Maybe she thinks everyone is on this site looking for one special person, and only one person. I don't know. But I immediately felt a little defensive.

Some (I hope most) women are very involved in the decision making process that leads to getting naked with a man. We can pick and choose who we become intimate with. There's no subjugation involved. No epic battles that end in our being defeated and forced to slide down our panties.

Even with my strong submissive side, I never feel like a conquest. Will I let a man dominate me? Hell yeah. But he's not going to earn my submission by treating me like something he has "won." My submission is a gift, not a spoil of war.

Sorry, I try not to use my blog to vent, but this really rubbed me the wrong way.

Conquest.

Bah.

s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
12/2/2019 2:09 pm

 Even if you made him do you he's still going to call
it a conquest.A trophy, a defeat. It's what sexual predators do
to stroke their own egos.
Bravo to your lady friend for seeing it for what it was.
Using more than all the road!


washpaman119 44M
Ask me for a photo

2/18/2020 7:14 am

 I wouldn't mind rubbing you the right way...


photon46 76M
339 posts
3/30/2020 9:43 am

 3000 years of social conditioning do not disappear quickly. Does not make it right. Unfortunately, there are men that need to feel like they win. I cannot imagine having sex with a guy that thought that way. I actually, not much interested in sex with a guy at all. I prefer we both end up too happy and pooped to even think about keeping score.


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