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Blogs > tresennui > Succumbing to Curiousity

Apparently monogamy's not for me  

tresennui 69F  
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9/21/2009 5:17 am

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Apparently monogamy's not for me
Came to that conclusion as I awoke to the three different dildos and a vibe on my nightstand that I had used last night.


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lefty64014 66M
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6/23/2019 7:48 pm

 Nothing like variation to keep things interesting, yet having a reliable choice is always comforting.


woodie1831 68M
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1/14/2010 11:31 am

 I can't say for sure if the use of dildos and vibes means that monogamy is not in your future --- but if there is a constant or pervasive desire for exploration, for variety, for more and different experiences then I think that monogamy would be difficult to maintain. Perhaps "serial monogamy" would function -- connected with one for a while (even an extended while) before moving on, yet keeping a return a possibility.
Just some thoughts and observations.


JohnDrake6 66M

1/13/2010 9:04 pm
    Quoting tresennui:
    Good question....is it monogamy if you play with others? Hmmm Maybe if you think of it as the only person you are one on one with, truly intimate with, and have sex alone with. When you played with others you would always be in the same room at the same time. Think that would work for me. Have to be very secure in your relationship to be able to do that.
Among other things, it is that level of intimacy, and that level of security in a relationship that are key for me. I would absolutely love to have that now, and if I did would offer her opportunities that I thought might add to her pleasure and happiness; I would hope she would do the same for me. Neither of which to replace what we have, but to add to it. And what is important is to be part of something/someone so important - the pearl of great value - that you both will always put it first and are secure that you will.

As much as I like that concept, I don't believe it is likely to happen for me under current circumstances. The times I have experienced anything similar are a poor copy - available because both people had so little to lose, not because they wanted to give to the other so much.


tresennui 69F  
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1/13/2010 8:00 pm
    Quoting JohnDrake6:
    Might depend on your definition too, Tres. If you find "the one" and one of the reasons he is "the one" is that you and he play together with others - is that monogamy? Not in the traditional sense of the word, perhaps - but maybe in your heart.
Good question....is it monogamy if you play with others? Hmmm Maybe if you think of it as the only person you are one on one with, truly intimate with, and have sex alone with. When you played with others you would always be in the same room at the same time. Think that would work for me. Have to be very secure in your relationship to be able to do that.
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JohnDrake6 66M

1/13/2010 9:53 am

 Might depend on your definition too, Tres. If you find "the one" and one of the reasons he is "the one" is that you and he play together with others - is that monogamy? Not in the traditional sense of the word, perhaps - but maybe in your heart.


Classyman35 49M
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10/15/2009 5:41 am

 I agree


JoeToGoTwo 62M
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9/28/2009 5:14 am

 Boy!! What lucky toys they are!

Monogamy is a very tough steak to eat while smiling and telling the other half that it is delicious.


tresennui 69F  
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9/22/2009 10:30 am
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Gotta love a puny guy.
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photon46 76M
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9/21/2009 2:24 pm

 You used a nightstand last night? Now that is kinky. Did you ever hear the one about the man turning into a bar
(he says shamelessly)


Bigc5557 71M

9/21/2009 8:29 am

 It's not for me either! But I am not one to be with several, prefer to fine one who is as interested in me as I am in she.


rm_gmcs2009 58M
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9/21/2009 6:51 am

 Monogamy is a tough one. How many people really find the one? The one who completes you in every way. My answer is very few; so many people are victims of circumstance, up-bringing, location, etc.

I have traveled the world and been involved with many cultures intimately. In my opinion, our culture is the toughest one of all to find complete happiness in. There are just to many rules to play by.


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